Me and my Clients
‘The thoughts you choose to think and believe right now are creating your future. These thoughts form your experiences tomorrow, next week, and next year’ – Louise L Hay
My first blog………………
I am wondering what you (the reader) will think, if you like it or not, if you find it interesting. I did some research, to see what the blog is about…. I realise that it is a way of me showing to you who I am, how I feel, what I am thinking and maybe actions in relationship with different aspects of day-to-day activities or wellbeing. Also, it is about to share my personal experience from life and therapy room.
I decided that my first blog will be based on what it is going on for me and for my clients when we meet for the first time (online, telephone or face to face).
As a client you may think to access / return to counselling to get some ‘fresh eyes’ on your story, difficulty, worries; maybe to talk with a person who is not judging, it is in your side and, is there just for you.
When I have a new client, I feel ‘a bit nervous’ may be an overestimation. I have a million and one questions. I will share a few with you:
- How the new client looks?
- How he / she talks?
- What it is their story?
- Why do they access counselling sessions now?
- Why did they choose me?
- What do they expect for me?
- Would I like them? Would they like me?
- Would I be able to help?
- Will be my therapy enough?
And many more…. I think you, as a client may ask some of these questions about me yourself and maybe a few more like:
- Would she listen to me?
- How many sessions do I need to solve my problem?
- What will she think when I will tell her why I am here?
So many questions from both of us, which usually are answered either at the first conversation or the first therapy session.
I am not surprised that both of us feel nervous, scared, curios either separate or all of them at the same time. Both of us are human beings and sometimes when we meet new people (or reconnect with the ones we already know) may be a scary thing to do till we get used with the new situation / people.
Are you surprised that I may go through the same process as you?
What it is helping me to accept new clients is my desire to help you to discover your weaknesses / strengths and to join you on your journey of discovering the new ways or to rediscover the old ways of you being happy and pleased with your decisions or yourself in general.
I am wondering what it is helping you to overcome all the fears you have regarding starting counselling. Maybe you been sent by somebody, maybe you hope for help and what to be listened, you want to try different ways of getting better and happier, or maybe you may just be curious to explore yourself and create a version of yourself that you are pleased and in ‘peace’.
If you accessed counselling before, I wonder if you got the above questions answered in the session. How was for you to access therapy?
Lots of questions in my blog today but I think it is important to realise that it is normal to feel the way you feel before accessing / returning to counselling.
For me may take couple for seconds to relax but for you can take up to the whole session to realise that you are safe, and I am here to support you. Coming or returning to counselling may be the bravest / hardest thing you did in your life but what if it is the best one? Maybe it is worth to try to see what it is about…
We do not need to have major issues to access counselling, we may wish just to explore ourselves, to improve our life or to move one step ahead of what we already have in our life.
Counselling is a place where the therapist is helping us (the client) to explore our feelings or thoughts which we may experience in different situations from our life. know you, to welcome your feelings and thoughts in the therapy room and to help you to understand what it is behind some of our actions.
Thank you, Clare, for the pictures. They show so well what counselling mean in my opinion. Clare said: ‘whilst it may appear that the tree will go in the wrong direction, the tree actually needs to do this to move out of the dark and into the light, so it can grow up straight and tall again’. What Clare said, in my opinion, it is the idea on my whole website about the fact that sometimes we need a storm to enjoy the sunshine after.
More details about what counselling is in my opinion will fallow in my next blog. I know already that I will start from the above pictures and what they mean for us and for the therapy sessions…. Ultimatum the client journey may not be so smooth like we will think maybe…
I am looking forward to reading your thoughts about my blog, to answer any questions, any comments to my blog are more than welcome. ……. please get in touch!
Take care and maybe see you soon….